Lies

The line “A man should never be worth your tears, and the one who is will never make you cry” is a lie. I’ve cried more than I’d like to admit with the boyfriend, but in the end we always work it out. The fact of the matter is that you’re going to cry about things “the man who is worth your tears” does or says. Why? Because boys say and do things that will hurt you without thinking about it. However, what’s important is the fact that you guys work it out and feel a lot better after you cry.

The second lie is the belief in true love and the fact that the world turns around one person and there’s only one person out there for you. That’s not true at all! In fact, with so many people in the world the chances that there is one person that you’re destined to spend the rest of your life with are so small that it’s nearly impossible to think that you’ll find that person.

In fact. It’s more probably that you will encounter multiple people with whom you would have a great, wonderful, and happy life with.

The magic isn’t in finding that “one.” The magic is finding someone that makes you happy, that you fall in love with, and that makes you think “Well, I think I can actually stand this person for the rest of my life.” And then you work on it. The magic comes from the tears that are wiped away after a fight. The magic comes from building the shed in the backyard and smiling at each other as you wipe sweat off your forehead with your t-shirt. The magic comes from watching your partner fall asleep and thinking they’re adorable.

The magic isn’t that swooping feeling you get when you’re frolicking through fields of flowers, cut off from the rest of the world because all you see is each other. Because, that type of frivolous love wears out. What the magic of “true love” is, is the fact that you get messy. Mascara running down your cheeks, eyes bright with anger, voices hoarse from screaming at each other across a room, sort of messy. The magic is that, after all that, you still come back together. You still trust, love, and respect each other. That you work hard to make sure that love, trust, and respect stays as strong as it did when you first met. That it grows into something stable and something you can lean on.

That’s what true love is. It has the ability to tear you to pieces while lifting you up at the same time. It’s not the lies told by Disney and every other romance movie or story that you’ll meet that person destined to be yours. It’s about finding a person who you could stand to be with for the rest of your life and then working on turning that into the romantic relationship that all the stories want us to believe exists without the gritty, hard work that that type of love requires.

Thoughts?